We’re firm believers that our emotions and our thoughts help shape the experiences we have. The problem with this is that many people tend to see the negative side of things without fully being aware of their negative thoughts. It’s almost as if being negative has become a habit, so it seems normal and natural to be negative all the time.
However, negativity breeds negativity, which ultimately leads to poor experiences in life. If you’re a Negative Nelly, read on to find out 12 of the most poisonous thought you need to drop today in order to achieve a better life. You may not even know you’re having them.
Poisonous Thought #1 – Thinking You’re a Victim
Stop it. You’re only a victim is you allow yourself to be. Stop laying blame for your problems on others or your circumstances. If you don’t like where you are at any particular time in your life, take responsibility and make the changes necessary to be somewhere else. Drop the victim mentality because no one is going to feel sorry for you, and it does nothing to help your situation. In fact, it actually hinders your success. It’s time to realize that you are the only one responsible for your own destiny.
Poisonous Thought #2 – Thinking You Can Change Others
You can’t change anyone that doesn’t want to change, so stop wasting your energy trying. Just as you are the only one capable of changing you, other people are responsible for making their own changes as well. If you don’t like someone “as they are,” then it’s up to you to decide if you want to be around them, but you don’t have the right to try to change them.
Poisonous Thought #3 – Thinking You Can Change the Unchangeable
Resisting “what is” and cannot be changed is a waste of valuable time and energy. For example, You cannot change the fact that you have to pay your rent or your mortgage each month, so why resist it? Furthermore, you can’t change that your boss is a jerk, so why bother? Of course, you can change jobs to get away from him, but you can’t change who he is. There are a lot of things you have the control to change in your life if you so choose, so take charge and change what you can, and learn to accept the things you cannot change.
Poisonous Thought #4 – Thinking the Grass is Always Greener…
“If only I were as pretty as my neighbor, I’d have nothing to worry about.” Or, “if only I had as much money as Pete, I’d be happier.” These kinds of thoughts are destructive, and simply not true. In fact, you really have no clue what their lives are like, and what you think they have being pretty and rich. Who knows? Maybe the pretty neighbor comes from an abusive home, or maybe Pete spends 80 hours or more a week and never sees his family just to have all those nice things. The grass is usually not greener on the other side of the fence, so learn to love the grass in your own yard.
Poisonous Thought #5 – Expecting too Much from Others
Expecting anyone else to do anything is detrimental to your happiness. Even if you think your expectations of them are reasonable, ultimately, you will probably end up being disappointed. For instance, expecting your roommate to do half the chores around the house. Just because you expect them to do it doesn’t mean they will. Your expectations aren’t anyone else’s priority, so decide if you can live with their behavior or move on.
Don’t let these thoughts dictate who you are, or who you want to be.
Have a GREAT weekend.